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Women's Relationship Workshop Series Announced

Women's Relationship Workshop Series Announced

I’m excited to announce that I am starting a women’s workshop series. The first one will be this upcoming Saturday, March 23, 2019 from 2:30-5:30pm at S Factor Costa Mesa, California—a feminine movement studio in Orange County that empowers and uplifts women. I teach women to move from a victim narrative and teach them how to be happy and empowered in their love lives.

Women give so much to others, and then are surprised to find out that all that giving does not necessarily translate to happier relationships. In fact, they usually give even MORE in an attempt to fix things (honey, let’s read this book, go to this workshop, go to this counselor, look at my lingerie, etc.). This leads to resentment, anger, irritability, and depression. Come learn how being a little more “selfish” will actually make you a better wife, girlfriend, and date. Wouldn’t it be nice to free yourself from all the shoulds?

Deadline to register is noon on March 22nd. Go to www.brookebergman.com/store and click “add to cart” to reserve your spot!

What makes great sex?

What makes great sex?

Today I'm talking about SEX. What makes it good? Great? Best you've ever had? 

We live in a culture that sells a lot of sex, but has zero clue about what makes it amazing.  Toys, youth, and all manner of circus acts are believed to increase sexual satisfaction--and yet--those who depend on Cosmo's "tips and tricks" for a better life in the bedroom will inevitably be thirsty for more and be chronically dissatisfied. Techniques, props, and positions are mechanical and ultimately make people feel used and objectified (i.e. not sexy). Cosmo's way is McDonald's (thanks @jimgaffigan for the cultural critique). 

The greatest sex of your life will require all of you to show up. 

Great sex is an issue of integrity. If you want it, you have to own and integrate your desires, your senses, your sexiness, your heart and then share it with your partner. You aren't allowed to blame your partner for not reading your mind.

There's a scene in National Lampoon's Vacation where Chevy Chase ends up naked in the pool with Christie Brinkley. Naturally, his wife is angry with him. But the real reason she's angry with him is because she wanted to be the one having fun with him. (Ultimately, her owning her desire to go skinny dipping too, saves the day and their marriage). 

The betrayal is so much more than sexual: it's that neither of them were honest and true with each other. 

If both people keep showing up in the fullness of their desires, the bliss will be never-ending and will only increase with time. If you allow it, sex can be the vehicle through which each of you continues to grow in all areas of your life. 

"Woman is Life"--Joseph Campbell

"Woman is Life"--Joseph Campbell

Heal yourself woman. Find your heart and dance towards your bliss. As you heal your feminine spirit, men around you will change: you will no longer have ANY tolerance for abuse, mis-treatment or boundary crossings--but the men who are craving a healthy relationship with the feminine will be drawn to you like honey. 

The Solution to Valentine's Day Woes: Becoming the Femme Vitale

The Solution to Valentine's Day Woes: Becoming the Femme Vitale

In all of nature, the female of the species requires her mate to compete for her, to work for her, to show off for her—and then she coolly chooses the male who most suits her fancy and her delight....

Betsy Prioleau, says,” [seductresses] strike terror into the insecure male heart…yet paradoxically seductresses are often the best thing to happen to a man. Contrary to fable, they’re usually femme vitales who put air in a man’s tank, conferring growth, creativity, happiness, and authentic masculinity” (Seductresses: Women Who Ravished the World and their Lost Art of Love, p. 2). When a man courageously faces his fears of engulfment and embraces the seductress, he will discover his own kingship, warrior, lover and sage within himself.